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Today is the best time in history for dating girls:

Today, millions of beautiful girls online are waiting for you. Just look around you: First, they are on dating websites or in online flirt communities. And, what’s even more interesting, you also literally find millions of single women on social networks. Yes, I am talking literally about millions. There are over 100 million girls on MySpace. And there are another 60 million girls on facebook, with those numbers growing each day by the ten thousands.

Let’s be honest: That’s a lot of girls! Even if you are the most social guy in the world — the number of hot women you can meet on parties and in clubs is nothing compared to the choice you have online.

And while flirting on dating sites is like going to a singles party in your town, social networking is more like meeting your dream girl through your circle of friends. And isn’t that the most natural way for people to find a girlfriend? Studies have shown that 56% of people in a relationship actually have met their partners either through friends or on their job. If you ask women what they think is the best way to meet a partner, a whole 73% of them will say their social circle:

Girls expect their dream partner to show up not on some fancy dating website but rather through common friends, in social activities, on their job or at school.

MySpace and Facebook are the closest you can get to that in the online dating world. And yes, you can even find a girlfriend on Facebook, and you can find a girlfriend on MySpace as well.

But how do you approach beautiful girls on Facebook? And how do you approach attractive women on MySpace?

The first thing most guys will think when they stumble upon a girl’s profile is: "Why would she even want to talk to me?". After all, beautiful girls usually do have a long, impressive list of friends, and most of them get ten or twenty e-mails from strangers every day — that is, from strangers who are trying to get to know her.

And that’s not really surprising:

Talking to a girl online doesn’t take the balls you might need to approach a woman on the street. Approaching online is safe, because you spare yourself from any embarassing situation if she rejects you. Nobody will see it. And if she’s not interested, she probably won’t even reply at all.

And because it seems so easy, many guys will give it a shot. They figure they’ve got nothing to lose. And in the end, 95% of the messages in a girl’s inbox will read like "how are you doing?", "how was your weekend?" or "would you like to chat with me?".

To make a long story short, most pick up e-mails a girl receives are dead boring. And after a week on Facebook or MySpace, a beautiful woman will be accustomed to spot and delete such messages in an instant. For girls on Facebook, MySpace or datig sites it’s just like you and I can spot and delete spam messages without even reading their content.

You are probably wondering right now what to say to a girl on MySpace and what to say to a girl on Facebook.

How do you approach girls if you want to stand out?

How can you meet girls online?

And, finally, how do you get a date?

You are not the only one askingthose questions. I’ve been struggling with them three years ago, and today I have written a book about how to date girls on MySpace and Facebook. And I want to share with you what I have learned over the years so you don’t have to make the same mistakes.

What I found is: Dating girls is like building any other connection. There are always three steps. You could call them dating secrets, but in reality, you are likely to find them in any social interaction.

First, you need attention. Second, you need a connection. And, third, you need commitment.

It’s that easy.

However, most guys will act on their first intuition and mix up the three steps right from the beginning when they flirt with a girl.

Just ask yourself: What is a guy really doing when he starts a conversation by asking an attractive girl how her weekend was? First, isn’t that kind of a weird question, if you consider that he doesn’t know her yet? And second, that’s not exactly getting her attention, is it? If a guy approaches a hot girl by asking her how her weekend was, he’s actually trying to build a connection. He’s trying to make her share her thoughts and experiences with him right from the start. A strategy that is most likely to fail: It’s simply impossible to build a connection to somebody unless you’ve got their attention first.

What does attention mean? It means to stand out from the crowd. It means that you need to make her recognize that you are different. It does not mean, however, that you have to show that you are better than the other guys. Just that something about you is different. To get her attention means to make her curious. At least curious enough to make her reply.

Connection means to show her that you and her have something in common. It can be the same taste in music. It can be a similar hobby. And it can be a shared sense of humor: If you can laugh with her, she will have fun talking to you. And in the end, that will be the foundation for the third step:

Commitment. That is the final stage of every flirt. Commitment means that she will decide that you are somebody she wants to stick around. Only when you have reached this phase you will get her phone number, meet her in real life or get a date.

So far for the theory. But how do you apply it?

Many guys ask themselves how to talk to girls. They simply lose their cool and fall into the trap of simply reacting to everything the girl does: They make their first mail a comment about something obvious from the girl’s profile. When she doesn’t reply instantly, they interpret it as a rejection and start to feel bad about themselves. And when she does reply but challenges them by being naughty,
they think she doesn’t like them and draw back with their tail between their legs. The reality is, though: Whenever she replies, she is interested.

Next time you see a beautiful woman on Facebook or on MySpace, send her the following message (without the quotes):

Subject: "I really must say…"

Body: "That is a CUTE picture! Who is she? I really like your taste."

Just try it. 8 out of 10 girls on Facebook, MySpace or on dating websites will reply. This message will get their attention.

The reason is simple:

This is a message that starts out like most of the everyday mails she’s receiving from other guys ("your’re so cute"), but right in the next sentence, the whole meaning is turned upside down. Basically, you’re saying that the picture is hot, and that’s why you simply assume that it’s not her. Some girls will laugh about that sudden twist, some won’t, but in the end, most of them will feel challenged in some way and send you a reply.

Don’t get me wrong:

Flirting is not about pick up lines. You can have the best pick up lines ever, and still never get a date and die as a virgin.

It’s not enough if you know how to approach a girl. You also have to know how to talk to a girland how to have fun with her.

It is easy to meet girls on Facebook, and it is easy to meet girls on MySpace, but you have to know how to flirt and escalate things. You need to become a master of all three steps of flirting — attention, connection and commitment.

Ordinary dating guides or flirting tips for men won’t get you any further here. They are written by editors who are married themselves and work all day in an editor’s office, desperately struggeling to meet the deadline for the next issue of their magazine or to somehow fill up their homepage with content.

You can become good at flirting. It’s not a matter of HOW MUCH you study and try, but rather of WHAT IT IS that you are studying and trying. You can put in hundreds of hours of discipline and optimism, but if you’re practicing the wrong thing, you’ll never see the results you want, no matter how much you deserve them. On the other hand, if you find and do the right thing, you can become better than 80% of all the other guys out there fairly quickly.

To show you what I mean I’m inviting you to read the sample chapter of my book on how to approach and date women on MySpace and Facebook.

The book will teach you everything you need: In it, you will learn how to make your profile attractive to girls.

You will learn a step-by-step recipe for the perfect approach message.

You will learn what to talk about with a girl in order to build a connection.

In the book, you’ll also find some games that you can play when you’re writing e-mails with a girl — games that will teach you things about her that she hasn’t even shared with her best friends.

Most important, you will learn how to escalate and how to transition from talking online to getting her phone number, talking on the phone and meeting her for the first time in real life.

To see for yourself how easy it is to see instant results you can learn more about getting dates on Facebook and MySpace on my website "TheCharmingYou". All the information there is free — and that includes the online dating tips that I send out each week via e-mail.

You will be amazed!

(And don’t forget to try out the approach message you’ve just learned in this article.)

Your friend,
Leonard Baumgardt 

P.S.: I have received many many e-mails from people who have read my book and who have had tremendous success with it. Of course, I know that it always seems like a risk to buy something online when you’re still not sure whether it will meet your expectations or not. And because of that, I’m offering a 100%-money-back guarantee to all my readers: If you’re not happy with the book, drop me an e-mail and I will send back your money. I’ve been doing that since I first published the book. So far only two out of every hundred readers have asked for a refund — while many many more have written me thank-you e-mails and recommended my book to their friends. So that makes me really proud. And it makes me confident, that you will love the book and the results you will see after reading it.

Mobile blogging is an exciting phenomenon that is sweeping the blogosphere. One of the reasons why a lot of bloggers are attracted to the medium of blogging in the first place is that they enjoy being able to make frequent updates and posts that keep all of their visitors up to speed with current situations. Mobile blogs, or “moblogs,” take this to the extreme by allowing users to post things literally as they happen. This new wave of moblogs and mobloggers keep web surfers up to date with good and bad events of importance as they occur all over the world, helping to make international communication faster and more accurate.

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